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Epiphany Quest 2010—Chapter 3: Herding ducks

Two more days and I’ll be on an airplane to begin my summer roadtrip/spiritual journey, which my friend and I have dubbed Epiphany Quest 2010. We started out calling it our “Thelma and Louise trip,” because we’re just a couple of middle aged women in a car, traveling freely from town to town, but it didn’t turn out so well for them. So we then tried to make a Romy and Michelle connection, but we couldn‘t agree on who was the Mary and who was the Rhoda. So, Epiphany Quest 2010 it is.

I wish I could talk more about the purpose for the trip that I mentioned in previous posts—that my oldest friend is going through a painful divorce and just needs to get away far away—because it would make this story more complete. However, out of respect for her privacy, I’ll mostly be talking about my own side of the journey.

Not that my side of the journey will be dull! Far from it, because this is going to be an amazing trip, if it would ever begin! I have been getting ready for so long, it seems, that I feel like I’m chasing my tail.

I’ve been working with AAA (if you don’t have a AAA membership, you have no idea how helpful they are when planning something like this) and have all the hotels reserved with some pretty good deals. I also got a GREAT price on a rental car, because my friend didn’t want to take her own car on the road for such a very long drive, through desert and mountains.

I’m flying to Texas, from Florida, on Wednesday, and we’ll pick up the rental car once I land. Then we’ll go to the store to get lots of bottled water (we’ll be driving across the desert until we hit the Los Angeles area) and the car munchies we’ll need to get us as far as Scottsdale, where we’ll stay the night with family and also be hitting our very first TRADER JOE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Those of you who know Trader Joe know why I’m so jubilant. Those of you who don’t would never understand. Trader Joe is the most amazing grocery store on the planet, and we don’t have them in Florida, so I’m going to stock up. We’ll most likely pick up a bottle or twelve of Two Buck Chuck.* 😀

Meantime, I found a great link today to an article about The Best Healthy Foods in America, which will make it much easier for us to make food choices while traveling.

I’m getting ahead of myself. On Wednesday evening, my friend and I will have the first of the many psychic readings we’ve planned on the trip. We’ll be seeing an extremely gifted psychic/healer that I know (I don’t know if she has privacy preferences about being named in these blogs, so I’ll have to check with her first before I mention her name). This is the first, bookend reading that I mentioned in a previous blog—we’ll both receive a body scan from her, to see what condition our condition is in. We’ll have another in three weeks, when we return, to see what has changed.

But for today, Monday, I’m concentrating on packing light, yet thoroughly. We’ll be in three different climates, having lots of different kinds of adventures—from seeing the dinosaurs from Pee Wee’s Big Adventure, to deeply spiritual journeys at Mt. Shasta, to the casinos of Lake Tahoe and then some—but I want to keep it down to one suitcase. We’ll have to do laundry several times this way, but we are going to have to lug this shit around with us from hotel to hotel, so I don’t want to be weighted down.

But I’m babbling now. I’ve been doing that a lot lately. So much to think about, so much to get ready, and so much anxiety about whether we have all of our ducks in a row, that it’s hard to concentrate on writing a coherent sentence. So forgive me if this has all been a mishmash of thoughts. Get used to it, because it’s going to be an incredible ride!

*Two Buck Chuck is now called Three Buck Chuck, due to inflation, but it’s still a smokin’ deal. I called it Two Buck Chuck here because the link I attached above still calls it by the old name.

Epiphany Quest 2010: Chapter 2—Divine Timing rears its head

It’s official. The trip begins on June 9, one week from today. I finally got the go-ahead to buy my airline ticket to Texas, where I’m meeting up with my friend. The plan is to drive through Texas across Hwy 10, all the way to Santa Monica, making a few stops along the way. Then we’re going up Pacific Coast Highway to San Francisco, followed by a few days in Mount Shasta, then Lake Tahoe, Salt Lake City, Denver, Albuquerque, Roswell, and then Texas again.

The trip will take about three weeks, during which time we’re going to hit all the “New Age” stuff we can find on the way. I wish I knew of a better phrase than New Age, because I always get reactions from people for using an old phrase for a new way of thinking. But I honestly don’t know of another phrase to use that is globally understood as a shorthand description of my spiritual beliefs. If you have one, please share it because I’d be grateful for the verbal assist. I don’t have the time to explain in depth, in every post, what my beliefs are (because it’s going to be a focal point of this trip), so a shorthand phrase is pretty important.

Anyway, starting in San Francisco, which is the first city we’re going to stop in for more than a quick night’s sleep, we’ll be seeking all of the psychically oriented sites we can find.

When we first stated this intention to each other, we didn’t really have a firm idea of what we were talking about because neither of us has been to most of these places. Once we get north of Santa Barbara, I’m in new territory until we get to Denver. The itinerary was initially a nebulous idea, like “What if we took a trip to see some beautiful places in America, and as much woo-woo shit as we can find on the way?” As you can see, we’re not taking this so seriously that we can’t have fun with it, but now that it’s sinking in what we’re doing, I can see that we will definitely come back changed people. See, part of the “new age” beliefs that I’m talking about is the idea that whatever you intend and put your focus on becomes your future. The fact that we intend a meaningful, spiritual, FUN journey means we’re gonna have a meaningful, spiritual, FUN journey.

We’re starting the trip with a psychic reading from a very gifted young woman who will do a body scan and reading for both of us. We’ll take notes about what she says, and upon our return, repeat the procedure, just to see what changes she sees.

We don’t know yet what we’ll be doing in San Francisco. I’m going to spend the next few days researching that topic.

In Mount Shasta, we’ll be taking the vortex tour. Panther Meadow, which has been recommended by several people, was under 11 feet of snow a few days ago, so I don’t know if it’s going to be on the itinerary. (Can you imagine 11 feet of friggin’ snow in JUNE???) It looks like this will be the primary focal point of the trip because, as I mentioned in the previous post, Shasta is apparently sort of the “holy city” of New Agers (there’s that damned phrase again). We’ll also be getting some psychic readings done here.

After that, a few days in the “healing waters” of Lake Tahoe (and maybe pulling a few slot handles) will be fun.

Then we’ll be driving through Salt Lake City, where I want to stop and check out the Mormon Temple, and get some pictures. Why not, eh? We’ll be there, and it would be a shame to not vibe into it and see how it feels. Non-Mormon’s aren’t allowed inside, but that’s okay. I just want to see what it feels like to be there, and to drive through the Salt Flats on the west side of the city. This will be a very cool visual day, with lots o’ pictures.

Oh yeah, I’ll be posting pictures of the trip here and on Facebook. Get ready. 😀

Next, we’ll be driving through the Rockies to Denver, where we’ll be attending a channeling and psychic reading session at the Inner Connections Institute, where someone dear to me is studying and is deeply impressed with the work they do there.

Then, we’ll end up in Roswell where we’ll visit the UFO museum, and spend the evening with my friend, psychic Curtis Folts. We’ll probably ask him to put on his psychic hat and do some readings while we’re there, as well.

Finally, we’ll end up back in Texas, where we’ll repeat the initial body scans and see where we are.

Meantime, during this tour, I’ll be promoting my book, Shape Shifting—the body/mind/spirit weight solution in the Next Top Spiritual Author competition, and doing various radio shows. In fact, I just booked a show for June 22, at 9PM EST, on CBS Radio! I’ll be calling in from my hotel in Lake Tahoe, after the Shasta trip, so I’ll be in fine form, I’m sure!

So where does the headline about “Divine Timing rearing its head” come in? Well, we’ve been delayed for weeks now with regard to finalizing the exact dates of my flight. We’ve been able to plan a lot of this trip, like hotels and car rental, etc., because they aren’t written in stone. But it’s next to impossible to make changes in airline tickets, and my friend has been waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting for her final divorce hearing date. Until that was set in stone, we couldn’t buy the ticket.

This has been driving us both pretty antsy, because we were stalled in our ability to move forward. This event has built up such a head of steam that it feels like it has a life of its own. The continual delays on an exact date were excruciating. Neither of us could figure out why we couldn’t just BUY THE DAMNED TICKETS ALREADY, but now I know.

Up until yesterday, my plan was to fly home on July 1. But now I know that we’re picking up an unexpected passenger (extra driver!) at the tail end of the trip, and I will, therefore, be staying an extra couple of days. If we had bought that ticket last week, that would have been impossible.

Don’t you love synchronicity?

Epiphany Quest 2010: Chapter 1–The countdown begins

I’m about to embark on a fascinating journey. When one of my oldest friends (meaning I’ve known her forever, not that she’s the “oldest” one of my friends) suggested a drive across the western half of the US, to help her to get over a painful divorce, I just saw it as a girls’ road trip. After all, it might be fun for the two of us middle-aged women to drive up PCH and check out the Golden Gate bridge, and relax for a couple days in Lake Tahoe. Fun, but no big deal.

Then she threw in the idea of going to Mount Shasta, because she had heard that it was one of those woo-woo vortexes, like in Sedona. My first reaction, other than one of recognition because my friend Elizabeth Anne Hill had gone there a couple years ago, was that I really didn’t want to add it to the itinerary. It’s waaaaay out of the way, and I’m not a huge fan of mountain roads. So I talked her out of it.

But then she got a reading from my psychic friend Curtis Folts, who told her she absolutely MUST go to Shasta on this trip. I was pretty ticked off when I heard this because, damn it, I just talked her out of going!

She felt like she really needs to go, because it’s supposed to be a really spiritual place and she said it would be a shame to be only five hours away, as opposed to across the country. I saw the sense in that, and decided it was okay with me, as long as we could get there and back by using only interstates. I really hate secondary roads through the mountains. Been there, done that, and my butt is still unclenching.

Well, I’ve been researching Mount Shasta and what we should do while we’re there, and I’m beginning to realize that this is to a “New Ager” what Jerusalem is to many other spiritual belief systems. It’s sort of our Mecca. I don’t know how I’ve been involved in the New Thought world for as long as I have and not known that, but there it is. I guess I never really thought of “New Thought” as having a holy city, but if we did, it would apparently be Mount Shasta.

So, off we go. In about 10 days or so, we’ll be on our way. I’m going to be keeping a sort of travelogue along the way. It should be a fascinating trip, because we’re hitting a lot of “spiritual” places and planning lots of fun, psychic experiments. I’ll keep ya posted!

Does ridiculing celebrities help us or hurt us?

ORIGINALLY POSTED ON THE NING SITE ON FEBRUARY 11, 2010 (I’m moving old posts from that site, which is closing down, to my WordPress blog):

I was stepping into my morning shower when I caught a glimpse of my naked backside in a full length mirror on the door behind me. Shuddering with disgust, I couldn’t help noticing the cellulite and crease of skin that runs from my back to my breastline. I quickly stepped into the water and closed the curtain so I wouldn’t give my inner critic any more material, because it was revved up and ready to go already.

“Jesus, you’re gross,” it said. “Do you really expect Jeff to be attracted to you, looking like that?”

I told it to shut up and explained to it several things:

a) I’m in my forties (and so is Jeff, who looks it, too).

b) Even at my physical best, I cannot look like a centerfold. It just isn’t in my genetic makeup.

c) Realistically, I don’t want to look like a centerfold. I truly dislike being leered at.

d) I have legitimate health issues that block me from rigorous exercise and I do what I can (not that I’m arguing for my limitations, but I have yet to overcome these difficulties).

e) I don’t care enough, most of the time (until I see that view in the mirror or some exquisitely beautiful woman) to give deliberate, intentional focus to creating a buffed and ripped body, so the chances of my actually ever having one are slim and none.

f) I wrote a friggin’ book on this topic and ought to know better than to let my inner frat boy beat me up.

So once I shamed the inner critic into silence … after all, I wasn’t making excuses, I was cutting myself a legitimate break … I was allowed to think and my mind wandered. I recalled, a few days back, surfing the web and looking at pictures of celebrities on one of those gossip websites that prides itself on running unflattering photos of those who we, as a society, have put on pedestals. You know the kind of pics … you see them at the checkout counter on the tabloid covers … pictures of stars in bikinis with cellulite and back fat, or poor Kirstie Alley who NEVER catches a break with these people.

I understand why these pictures are popular … they help to smooth the sharp edge off of the unrealistic demand that we, the unwashed masses, somehow diet, sculpt and exercise our ways into looking like people who make a career out of looking amazing with surgery, personal trainers and rigid diets. In fact, recalling these pictures immediately after seeing my own fat ass, actually did help me to stop bashing myself. After all, if one of the rich, wealthy and worshiped looks like I do naked, then I guess I must look like a fairly normal human specimen and that’s okay.

So, yeah, I can dig it. There is a need for us to see the truth that lies beneath the phony Hollywood veneer. But do they have to be so mean? Do they have to sound like my inner critic?

I would love it if one of these sites were to run the exact same photos, but add kinder captions. I do want to see these pictures, because they shatter the illusion and, therefore, help with self-esteem issues. But instead of headlines that scream “Look at her fat aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaass!” I would prefer they say something like, “Hey, her ass looks just like mine!”

Hey, a girl can dream, can’t she?

Get grounded to access your power!

ORIGINALLY POSTED ON THE NING SITE ON JUNE 27, 2009 (I’m moving old posts from that site, which is closing down, to my WordPress blog):

Being “grounded” doesn’t sound fun, not even the metaphysical version. To me, that word means punishment, so I’ve avoided listening to advice that says I should be grounded. Boy, was I wrong! I’ve learned that being grounded was the only way I could access my power!

You’ve heard the advice. It usually says something like “Sit up straight and put your feet on the floor. Imagine your feet connecting with the earth and roots growing out of them. Then imagine a silver cord connecting your root chakra to the center of the earth…”

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz … huh? Oops, sorry. Did I drift off?

I didn’t want to be grounded, because life on Earth is pretty boring and dull. I’ve always preferred playing around in the psychic realms. I spent most of my life reaching upwards, trying to escape living in my body. In fact, I even mentioned briefly in my book, Shape Shifting—reclaiming YOUR perfect body, that I realized my weight gain was partly my body’s effort to keep me grounded. Even so, I had no interest in grounding. I’d rather be fat and psychic than skinny and mundane.

So when my friend, psychic astrologer Glenna Dietrich, recently did an astrology reading for me, and mentioned that my chart says that I was born extremely ungrounded, I was amazed because I thought all this time that I am stuck in the physical and need to escape. She told me that I am so up in the air that it is imperative that I get grounded. Hence, the topic of our most recent radio show, Grounding and Self-Healing (listen here … it’s one of the best shows yet!).

But even before that show, I was playing around with the idea of grounding, only because she insisted. I imagined the typical scenario: I dropped the proverbial cord from my root chakra into the center of the Earth. This felt uncomfortable. I felt like I had to hoard all my energy … I didn’t want to let it drain into the Earth, because I felt like I wouldn’t have enough then. So I also added a cord upward, from the top of my head, to connect to the source of my energy, wherever that may be. That way I got the best of both “worlds.”

I realized, as I did this meditation, that the upper cord helped me to feel replenished, like I didn’t have to hoard excess energy because I have an infinite supply now. I’m able to allow it to run through me like an appliance, which never wonders if there will be enough power to let it run if it’s plugged in. This offered exquisite relief because now I don’t feel so very static and overloaded, and the fear of “never enough” has been alleviated. I don’t have to cling so tightly to what I’ve managed to collect.

As I explored this concept, I realized that (as I mentioned on the radio show) what I have been doing my entire life is similar to revving up a toy car … you know the kind that you roll across the ground over and over in order to wind up the toy’s mechanism … but never putting it down and letting it go, to zoom across the floor. I was revving up my own motor, “manifesting” like a mofo, but never touching down into the physical realm long enough to let my creations grab any traction in the 3D realm. No wonder so many of my projects, which I’ve been working on for so very long, haven’t ever been realized! The ones that have are those that I put down and released. Those that haven’t, I’m still revving up in the ethers.

For example, since I’ve started really focusing on this work, which corresponds with my use of my own creation, the Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary, I’ve not only dropped 16 pounds (and 13 inches) I’ve also completed a short novel! Many of my friends are astounded that it didn’t take very long to write, but the story has been in my head for over five years. I just finally put it down and let it zoom across the keyboard.

If you’ve listened to the radio show I’ve written about here, you know that Glenna agreed to record a meditation to help us to get grounded. A woman of her word, she and I recorded it this week. Here is a link where you can download the mp3 file (right click and “Save As…”) and listen to it yourself. This recording includes that meditation, which is about 17 minutes long and is like nothing you’ve ever heard before. It’s not the same old “Be like a tree” meditation that we’ve all heard … this is something brand new and very powerful! Glenna and I then continued our conversation from the radio show, so if you’re interested in even more information, continue listening after the meditation is over.

I want to apologize for the sometimes lousy sound quality during the conversation. This wasn’t recorded in a studio, but on one of those conference call lines. However, the meditation is still stunning and potent, and I think it will change your life if you use it. Please share this recording with your friends and don’t forget to tell them where you got it … www.shapeshiftingonline.com!

Enjoy!

Hurry up and wait…

ORIGINALLY POSTED ON THE NING SITE ON JUNE 14, 2009 (I’m moving old posts from that site, which is closing down, to my WordPress blog):

I keep visiting my blog site, wondering if or when I’ll ever write a new blog. Nothing is occuring to me to be worth writing about. It’s not because nothing is going in, it’s because I’m in “hurry up and wait” mode.

The more people I talk to, the more I realize it’s not just me, feeling this way. There is a strange hum in the air, an expectant feeling of “now isn’t the time to act, so just hang on another little while longer.”

If you read Karen Bishop, you know that she has been discussing this kind of thing for years, and she swears that the Summer Solstice this year is going to be a doozy. She claims that the waiting will be over.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait for that waiting to be over. Maybe then I’ll have something to write about. Meantime, please feel free to start your own discussions in the forum here. Maybe you have something interesting to say!

I might as well take this opportunity to remind you of a few things going on this month:

This month’s radio show (with guest Glenna Dietrich) is on June 17, at 1:00 PM. Glenna and I (and the Guides) will be discussing self-healing, grounding and whatever else comes up! Check out this link for more information:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/shapeshifting

Fat thighs are grounding?

ORIGINALLY POSTED ON THE NING SITE ON JUNE 3, 2009 (I’m moving old posts from that site, which is closing down, to my WordPress blog):

I’ve successfully completed my first Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary (a three-month cycle … just enough to get a lot done, but not so much that goals seem so far into the future that we can’t connect with them) and, at the risk of sounding like a marketing pitch, I have to say that I’m completely impressed with how well it works. My initial goals were not only realized, but they were exceeded!

The first two goals—to have daily access to a car (we were a one-car family) and to make substantial progress on a novel that I had not even started at the time—are in the bag. Jeff now has his own ride (a super-fun Honda 600 Silverwing), and I’ve written 136 pages and am well into Act Two. I’m VERY happy with this accomplishment.

But the real triumph is my success over some awful health issues that caused an inability to exercise (read my past blogs, if you’re interested in details). I got to a point where I just wasn’t going to lose any more weight because my diet was as healthy and balanced as I can make it at my current level of knowledge and ability. Without burning calories, I was going nowhere, but exercising made me so ill that I did very little of it.

This is what I wrote on the first day of my Diary, under the “Primary Goal” heading:

“I’m concentrating on getting my health back on track. My goal is to be able to exercise and ENJOY doing it. I want to get in shape and be healthy once and for all.”

So I set my intent that I would finally find a health practitioner or two (turns out it was way more than that) who would be able to finally help me break through this brick wall. It took a lot of struggle and hard work, but I’m proud to say that I am now regularly exercising, three times a week, at Curves and am seeing a very visible difference in how I look and I am experiencing a palpable difference in how I feel.

It’s still hard to make myself leave the house and actually go do it, but once I’m there I do enjoy the workout and after a temporary feeling of having my ass kicked, I feel great the rest of the day and miss it on the days I don’t go. My energy levels are getting higher and my posture is improving. I’m in a good mood much more often and the almost constant state of anxiety I was dealing with is mellowing out. Plus, I’m looking younger and healthier. Yay!

Of course, since my preferred focus is on the body/mind/spirit aspect of all of this, I would be remiss if I didn’t include the fact that I’ve also broken through countless metaphysical barriers as well. As my weight has been decreasing (I’ve lost 13 pounds, and 10.5 inches) and my body is now toning, I’ve been dealing with lots more self-esteem issues and releasing lots of emotional baggage. Old karmic patterns are coming up, to be dealt with, and I’m finally ready to face and dissolve them. It hasn’t been easy, but I’m stronger as a result.

As I’m exercising, I’m breaking up and releasing old bullshit, stored in my body as fat. I wasn’t ready for this before, apparently. I hadn’t matured enough to be able to forgive and release the things I’m dealing with these days.

Interestingly, the one part of my body that hasn’t yet released any inches is my thighs. My thighs are naturally heavy anyway (genetics … what are ya gonna do?) but I could definitely stand to shave off a few inches. So I looked in my favorite body/mind book, Debbie Shapiro’s Healing Mind, Healing Body (find a link in the Recommended Reading forum post) and laughed out loud at what it said. It described EXACTLY the stuff that I’m working on right now. Dig this:

“Our legs express a level of groundedness or firmness, as well as the passage of life we have experienced and the direction we are now going in … Being nearest to the pelvis, the thighs tend to represent the more inner and personal aspect of moving. Issues here can be closely associate to sexuality, to expression, to being able to share ourselves and our movement with another. This is intimately connected to our sense of femininity or masculinity. Issues to do with our parents are also found here, as we have to move away from the parental energy as we grow and mature. Excess weight in this area is like a build-up of mental resistance to fully expressing or finding our own direction, and to being at peace with our sexual expression; it is a way of blocking off from really experiencing the depth of our feelings in this part of our bodymind.”

I haven’t mentioned this yet, but I recently asked my dear friend, psychic/astrologer Glenna Dietrich, to do a chart for me and one of the main things she kept pounding away at is how very ungrounded I am because of my chart and that it is vitally important for me to ground. I’ve been deliberately working on that (I’ll be blogging about that soon enough) So I was delighted when I read that the legs are all about grounding, and the thighs are about the things I’ve been putting on the back burner.

I’m pretty sure that by the time I’m done with my new Shape Shifter’s Daily Diary, I’ll be able to report a healthy loss of several inches of fat from my thighs.

Recalibrating my default attraction setting

ORIGINALLY POSTED ON THE NING SITE ON MAY 25, 2009 (I’m moving old posts from that site, which is closing down, to my WordPress blog):

I’ve spent a lot of time lately being more deliberate about practicing what I preach. I can blog about the Law of Attraction with the best of them, but do I always follow my own advice every day? Not so much. It’s time to change that.

I have seen some remarkable demonstrations in my life of how I get EXACTLY what I ask for, but only when I’m “in the zone” when I ask. So what I’m working on now is staying in that zone more often. Isn’t that what we’re all working toward? Living life more deliberately and consciously?

Today Jeff and I went for a ride on the bike, down some of the Florida back roads … real Florida, where the gators live … not tourist-glitzed Florida. We stopped in a little fishing village to watch some of the locals fishing off a bridge that runs over an inlet from the Gulf. It was a beautiful, sunny day and I deeply inhaled the Isness of it. I wished that every day could feel this good. Then it suddenly occurred to me that this wouldn’t be a bad vibrational set-point to start from in my everyday life.

After all, the Law of Attraction isn’t just working when we make an effort to deliberately manifest something; it’s at work ALL THE TIME. There isn’t a single moment that isn’t a creative one, so we need to pay attention to what we’re thinking when we don’t think we’re thinking, and be mindful of how far off center we want to go during a delicious bitchfest. And, honestly, I’ll often find that long stretches of time have gone by with me in a pissy mood without paying much attention to what I’m creating with it. Think of all the pissy scenarios I’ve just manifested because my “at rest” vibration was so low.

So how do I raise my default setting? Declare it to be so. Capture the moment and tell the Universe that this is where you want your inner Feel-o-Stat to level off from now on.

That’s what I’m doing right now. I’m putting in my request that life is always at least this groovy. This is as low feeling as I wish to go from now on, until I choose to bump it up even higher. Now I just need to stay out of my way and not override that request with sabotaging thoughts. Maybe I can add to that a request for a little assistance keeping the new vibe in place while I get used to what it feels like.

Well, that was easy, wasn’t it?

TRIUMPH!!! (and Challenge)

ORIGINALLY POSTED ON THE NING SITE ON MAY 19, 2009 (I’m moving old posts from that site, which is closing down, to my WordPress blog):

I got my weight/measurement update at Curves yesterday and am really excited with the results! I’ve lost 10.25 inches and 11 pounds! Woohoo!!!

I’m more excited about the lost inches than the number on the scale because I’ve long said that I’m pretty okay with my weight, it was the lack of muscle tone that concerned me. However, now that I’ve reached this point, the Curves lady rolled out all the BMI/ASCAP/MOUSE numbers and told me that my goal weight should be another 40 pounds lighter than I currently am.

I don’t know how I feel about that. I will admit that it feels wonderful to have made the changes I’ve made. I feel lighter, healthier, younger and more excited about getting up in the morning. I’m sure that by losing some more pounds that feeling will increase exponentially. However, now that I’m faced with a decision about whether to lose more weight or not, some of my “issues” are surfacing.

For example, the closer I feel to the younger, healthier, skinnier me, the less I feel like I will be taken seriously. I wrote about this in Shape Shifting, but thought I worked through it. Apparently I only allowed myself to lose enough weight (isn’t 50 pounds enough???) to look acceptable, but not enough to have to face this issue. The thought of looking thinner and younger is bringing back memories of being treated like I’m an idiot just because I’m a girl and have a curvy body.

Back in the old days, I was built sort of like Valerie Bertinelli or Mila Kunis … not a knockout bombshell, but a cute, tiny package. And no one took me seriously, not even myself. I realize, now, that I was also adding weight to compensate for a lack of height!

On the flip side, I will never be taken seriously as a “weight loss” author if I don’t lose the weight! But I don’t want to be thought of as a weight loss author! Unfortunately, that’s how people view my work. I’ve been to many expos and seen their reactions. I have had people actually say to me, “Well, if you’re writing about weight loss, you probably better lose some weight!” Never mind the 50 that I’ve already lost and the fact that I’m perfectly content with the number I see on the scale. I don’t look like their idea of a weight loss success story, so I must not have a clue what I’m talking about.

I’m so confused. I guess what I’ll do, until I figure out a specific plan of action, is to continue working toward my healthiest body and if that means a lower number on the scale, so be it. I will augment that intention with taking myself more seriously, which will then ripple outward to those who were merely mirroring my own lack of self-esteem.